Expressions of Faith: Keeping the balance in your relationship

Rev. Monterey D. Lee, Sr.

Rev. Monterey D. Lee, Sr.

What is balance? Balance is the ability to not over consume all your energy or power into one thing. It’s the principle of moderation. Moderation is choosing portions one at a time, as opposed to consuming all at one time. In your relationship there must be a moderate portion known as giving and receiving. Giving and receiving gives the relationship an appropriate and necessary balance that is needed always. It’s not always a percentage, but it’s the degree of fluctuating. Fluctuating is being able to move things around without being overly exhausted and entering a place of boredom.

A Godly relationship requires spiritual nourishment. Its imperative that you receive your spouse in the way God receives you. “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her,” Ephesians 5:25.

When was the last time you took your spouse out to dinner, a good movie, and a walk in the park with mutual conversation? If there is no nourishment in your marriage, it will become dull and that is when the spirit of resentment sets in. Resentment is anger or illness at someone for something they have done.

Why did I marry him?

Was this relationship a mistake?

I can do bad all by myself!

I need more than this in my life.

You will begin to look to others or places to find what you need and desire in your life. To prevent this from happening you must ‘upsize’ your relationship.

There are three principles for a Godly relationship.

First is ‘integrity.’ One of the main reasons why people enter a relationship is to have spiritual integrity. Spiritual integrity gives us a great and satisfying feeling that there will never be an embarrassing moment with your spouse, but great benefits in knowing that the two of you are looking out for one other. Ephesians 5:28 says: “Husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself.”

Our second principle for a Godly relationship is ‘spiritual oneness.’ Ephesians 5:31 says, “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” Oneness in a relationship is achieved as both partners yield themselves completely to God and to one another. Build your relationship on the principles of the Word of God; which is God’s perfect provision for your relationship. The benefits of oneness are unity, commitment, wisdom, accountability, consistency, persistence, diligence, and trust. The process of becoming one requires that a couple enter into spiritual contract to maintain a bond that can never be broken.

Our third principle is ‘order.’ Order for your spiritual relationship is the work of the Holy Spirit. God will not bless a relationship that is unorganized. “I beseech ye therefore, brethren, by the mercies of God, you present your bodies a living sacrifice, holy, acceptable to God, which is your reasonable service. And do not be conformed to this world, but be ye transformed by the renewing of your mind, that you may prove what is that good and acceptable and perfect will of God,” Romans 12:1-2. Man cannot be priest, provider, and protector of his home if there is no spiritual order from God. God’s divine order is living a holy life that is pleasing to Him, and each other. Leviticus 19:2 says: “Ye shall be holy, for I the Lord your God am holy.” When there is order in your relationship there will be a strong degree of spiritual purity as you grow closer to God and one another. Remembering that your body is the temple of the Holy Ghost (1 Corinthians 6:19).

In keeping balance in your relationship, practice these three principles, and you will live an enriched life with your spouse in eternal love.

(Dr. Monterey D. Lee, Sr. is the Pastor of Celebration Christian Center located at 1215 9th Ave N. Nashville, Tenn. 37208. Visit the website at .)